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5 Stereotypes Which Prevent Women from Getting Orgasm

According to US national surveys on sexual health and behavior, 91% of men and only 64% of women had an orgasm during the last sexual intercourse. According to the theory of a professor of philosophy and psychology, the reason lies not only in the structure of the body but also in the stereotypes, adopted in the society. Decades of research have shown that women need the stimulation of the clitoris, and even vaginal orgasm depends on it. However, the myths that a woman can easily get such an orgasm, having relaxed enough, are still widespread in society, and there are several reasons for that. This article is prepared by Russian women for marriage.

  1. Culture depicts women who get an orgasm through penetration.

If you analyze popular movies with erotic scenes or even porn, it’s easy to see that the main characters get an orgasm after several aggressive frictions with penetration, and other techniques are ignored. It seems that the main thing is to find the right position to help a woman catch the wave. In fact, it does not matter in which position a woman is and how big your penis is. There are not so many nerve endings in a vagina, unlike a clitoris. The image of the female orgasm in the media simply increases the insecurity of women who cannot reach an orgasm through penetration.

  1. The number of women who reach an orgasm through penetration is overestimated.

There is often quoted statistics, according to which the only one in four women gets an orgasm through penetration. However, the statistics do not take into account that in reality, the respondents also received stimulation of the clitoris. According to the survey, only 4% of women can reach an orgasm through penetration, 43% need stimulation during penetration, 34% consider the stimulation of the clitoris to be the best way to cum, and 17% cannot reach an orgasm with a partner at all. Nonetheless, even these statistics may be overestimated. People involved in such studies are usually sexually open, which means they are more likely to get an orgasm thanks to their emancipation.

  1. Female genitals are just a vagina.

During puberty, and in the process of studying, people come to the conclusion that the male and female genitalia differ only in name. So, men have a penis and testicles, women have a vagina which is usually mentioned without any details and differences. This is the same as telling a child that the nose is for eating and breathing. After all, the nose and mouth are both on the face, so what’s the difference? For some reason, men call all of the female genitalia in a word and do not even notice the absurdity of the situation. Since the clitoris has no effect on male pleasure, some men prefer not to pay any attention to it during sex.

  1. Sex is only about penetration.

During the same period of puberty, people master the word “sex.” It is defined as the penetration of the penis into the vagina. Any other technique is considered “not real” or only a prelude to real sex. This happens due to the fact that for a long time, the key moment in sex was considered a male orgasm because only it leads to reproduction.

  1. The male orgasm is more important.

Society still appreciates man’s sexual pleasure more than woman’s. In 2016, the Canadian Journal of Human Sexuality published a report, according to which 63% of men and only 44% of women had oral sex during the last sexual intercourse. In another study, it was found that adolescents consider oral sex more important than sex with penetration, but only if a woman does it. Obviously, the lack of attention to the clitoris is associated not only with a misunderstanding of anatomy, many men still don’t think that it is so important.

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Female Stereotypes

The only way to eradicate those stereotypes and thus improve the quality of sex is to learn more about how women’s bodies work. Many men are ignorant of female orgasm, and they automatically become poor lovers. When it comes to sexual intercourse, the main task of a man is to satisfy his woman, let her experience that heavenly pleasure of orgasm (otherwise she’ll be looking for someone who is able to get her to orgasm). For this, he should know her desires and her secret spots. Foreplay is extremely important, because to get a real pleasure from a sexual act, a woman needs to be “tuned”, and foreplay is meant for turning on her libido. In women, psychology usually comes first and physiology – second. Her emotional state will define her sexual desire.

Your foreplay should include touches, stroking, caresses, kisses, and sweet words whispered in her ear. Sometimes, all this can already bring her to orgasm. Foreplay is needed to activate one important physiological process in her, that of natural lubrication. This will mean that she is ready for penetration, and frictions will not hurt her.

Before penetration, stimulate her clitoris either with fingers or a tongue. You can combine penetration with clitoris stimulation. As you already know, that small part of the vulva is responsible for every orgasm irrespective of position and the type of sex.

You shouldn’t ask your woman whether she had an orgasm right after you finish. It will spoil the atmosphere of intimacy in your bedroom. However, you should talk about sex, about each other’s preferences and fantasies, about likes and dislikes in bed. Partners should be frank in this regard. It’s a direct way to quality sex and mutual satisfaction.

Women Watch Porn Too!

The rise of feminism has given impetus to a lot of women and as a result of this more women are asserting themselves in the workplace, society, and even in the bedroom. Women are making a statement of their sexual preference and sexuality.  While some are exploring their sexuality without inhibitions, others are still hiding their sexuality. Today, there is a growing trend of women looking to pornography for insights, for learning, for new tricks and for some, a view to some unfulfilled fantasies.

Many believe that the rise in the number of women watching pornography is born out of women wanting to explore, to gain insights and that for some it is an avenue to reach deep into their soul, escape from reality to find what truly excites them, what governs their sexuality, and to catch a glimpse of those fantasies that may have no place in their reality.

Do you think that only men watch porn?  If you do, then you are way further from the truth than you can even imagine.  According to recently published user data by one of the leading internet providers of pornography; Pornhub.com, the percentage of women who watch porn is about 24% of women in America watch pornography, while the number sits at 21% for Britain, the world average is 23% and for some areas like Brazil, the figure gets as high as 29%.  So overall it’s about a quarter of women watch porn which makes it a massive market.  Men watch far greater amounts of porn, but many women still watch porn.

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Female Friendly Porn

It’s fair to say that when you access your typical porn sites they are designed for men so I believe that there will be a massive market out there for female orientated porn.  So it begs the question, what pornography do women like to watch?

The top category for women who watch pornography is lesbian porn. The user data shows that more women search for lesbian related acts such as “tribbing” and “scissoring”. In fact, these are two of the most searched sub terms for women.  A lot of lesbian porn involves vibrators and dildos and passionate exploration which I think resonates with most women.  A growing trend is also the category called “for women” which presents very sensual HD clips involving a lot of touching, kissing and sexual massages ending in sex rather than hardcore penetrative sex alone. The data shows that outside of the most watched category, women are also drawn to search the following: Milf, threesomes, BDSM and solo masturbation using vibrators and dildos.

In further trying to understand the reason behind the choice of lesbian sex pornography by most women, I did some research.  According to a study conducted by the OMGYES Pleasure report and published in the Journal of Sex & Marital Therapy, covered over 1000 women aged between 18 and 68, on their sexual preference and how they like to be touched, aroused and brought to orgasm, it was observed that over 75% of the respondents agreed to stimulation of the clitoris and genitals by hand or tongue, application of pressure to pleasure points or other means in conjunction with penetrative sex. Only 18% agreed that vaginal penetrative sex alone was enough for a satisfying orgasm.

So if only 18% believed that vaginal penetrative sex alone was enough for an orgasm, that means that 82% believed it wasn’t enough which means that they’re looking for more than just penetrative sex to be satisfied.  I bet if you were to ask men 100% would say that penetrative sex is enough for them.  So we can see there’s a bit of a disconnect between what satisfies women and what satisfies men.

This is not to say all women like to be touched the same way but the important thing here is that looking deeply, you will find out that lesbian sex which is the most viewed pornography category by women mirrors the expectations of most women to obtaining a satisfying orgasm.  More women are taking a stand for what they desire and are looking to ways to fulfil their fantasies of maximum pleasure through pornography.

In my opinion and from the above findings, I am led to think that the image of stimulating sensual touch at play in lesbian sex evokes and settles a longing rooted deep inside of most women. With the world fast changing and cultures evolving, former barriers to sexual explorations for women are being brought down, the feminist movement is greatly influencing a lot of young girls and the result is evident even in their sexual and pornographic preferences.

Even though many of us knew intuitively that this was the case, the irony is that we needed the porn watching habits of women to show us what we intuitively knew.  I’m not the first female to say this and I won’t be the last, but foreplay is important.  Foreplay isn’t always wanted or needed though, sometimes we just want a wham bam thank you ma’am type scenario as well.

The Vibrator Vixen.

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Brent Corrigan’s Early Adult Movies – Free Event and Giveaways

Brent Corrigan is a gay adult movie star who will be arriving at Park Street Books, Level 2/44 Park Street, Sydney on the 3rd of March 2017 to promote a NakedSword Series which he directed named “Ultra Fan”. He will be here alongside famous icons from the gay adult movie industry including JJ Knight, Chi Chi LaRue and Sister Roma. They will be there to meet with their fans and sign autographs. There will also be free giveaways from Swiss Navy who will be there to give a gift to everybody in attendance. The gifts don’t stop there! Fleshjack Australia will have some freebies available for people to. Mr Peeps will also say hi to everyone!

Brent Corrigan being one of the most famous gay adult movie icon’s in the world has had a beautiful and lustrous career. Below we have listed some of his earlier works.

In 2004, Brent Corrigan starred in “Every Poolboy’s Dream” by Cobra Video. Brent Corrigan is walking along the beach and he appears to be homeless. He comes across an advertisement for someone would like to be employed as a pool boy to work for Jake Landaus and Brenden Michael at his lovely home. Landaus makes the rules in their relationship and he appears to really enjoy having Brent around. Corrigan is getting used of his job. Ferrara and Corey Savage are an openly swinging couple who have anal with two other hot twinks. This is the first sex scene is sexually charged and rampant.

Savage goes down on Angel Ramone until he is so hard, he blows a great warm load into his open mouth. When he finishes, Savage gets ready to insert his dick into the barely legal-looking fair haired Donny Price. Ferrara also wants a piece of the action, and has a good long play. Price gets to hot and cums into Ramone’s ravenous mouth. Ferrara is still rock hard and ready to finish screwing Savage and cums directly into his ass. Things do not stop there!

Starring: Brent Corrigan, Brenden Michael, Jake Landaus, Shaun Ferrara, Corey Savage, Donny Price, Angel Ramone and Scott Hanson

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Photo: Brent Corrigan in Ultra Fan

In 2004, he starred in “Schoolboys Crush” by Cobra Video. Brent Corrigan appears to be hot and handsome, who is looking to get laid. Brent Corrigan wants to have some fun with Brent Everett and yearns for his body. Brent understands precisely how to use his big cock to make people yearn for more and he participates in cum shot contests.

The very first scene is of Benny Argento a friend of Brent’s who is playing around with Shaun Ferrara. Ferrera is known to be one skills gay adult movie performer with skills that people can only dream about. He is a very horny brunette and is one heck of a man. Argento submits to Ferrera wants and needs. Ferrara kisses Argento all the way to his pastel Unico Mundo underwear. Ferrara is ready for something more and licks Arento’s ass to deflower his prized man.

The best part of Schoolboy’s Crush is when Argento is on the bed on his back with his hunky legs spread out wide with everything for the taking. Ferrara pumps hard with his thick erection. Amid this, Argento goes from delicate to hard, and he squirts. Ferrara twists down to lick it up, making Argento ask him how it tastes.

Starring: Brent Corrigan, Brent Everett, Chase McKenzie, Shaun Ferrara, Lance Evans, Ryann Wakins, Jeremy Spencer and Benny Argento

In 2005, Brent Corrigan starred in “Cream BBoys” by Cobra Video

Cobra Video presents Cream BBoys, an unquestionable gay adult movie. In this full throttled video, sailors are wet and ready to pummel into five bareback scenes which are all worth seeing. Come aboard and have a look at the twinks sucking up loads of cum, these sexy sailors show their skills and cum neediness. A large number of the models really look like genuine couples who have chosen to report their lovemaking everlastingly on-screen.

The star fascination of the film is today’s prevailing adult movie star Brent Corrigan (who is also known as Fox Ryder of the Velvet Mafia). Brent honestly commands the screen. Brent’s scene shows up toward the end; clearly the makers spared the best for last.

The film starts with the motion picture’s bolting co-star, Connor Ashton, a good looking hunk with a gathering measured rooster. He kisses in bed with a cutie named Kenny. They uncover that both young men employ great huge dicks. Kenny blows a velvety load into Ashton’s mouth and all over, trailed by awesome oral work on Ashton.

Ashton’s dick ejects, drenching Kenny’s face, which Ashton licks off. For their second course, Ashton eats out Kenny’s smooth gap and gives him a good serving of anal sex.

Starring: Connor Ashton, D.J., Lance Evans, Nate Grant, Kenny, Cameron Lane, Brent Corrigan, Trevor Peterson, Corey Savage and Tyler

Be sure to stop by for Brent Corrigan at Park Street Books, Level 2/44 Park Street, Sydney on the 3rd of March 2017! It may be the only chance you will get to see him in person with so many famous adult movie icons!

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Sister Roma and The Sisters of Perpetual Indulgence – Free Event and Giveaways

The Sisters of Perpetual Indulgence (SPI) are also known as the Order of Perpetual Indulgence (OPI). The Sisters of Perpetual Indulgence are a charity, protest and street performance organization that uses drag and religious imagery to call attention to sexual intolerance by satirizing issues of gender and morality. At their inception in 1979, a small group of gay men in San Francisco began wearing the attire of nuns in visible situations to draw attention to social conflicts and problems in the Castro District.

The Sisters of Perpetual Indulgence have grown throughout the United States of America and are currently organized as an international network of orders. They are mostly a non-profit charity organization that raises money for AIDS, LGBT-related causes and mainstream community service organizations who do a lot of work in San Francisco. They promote safe sex, educate others about the harmful effects of drug use and other risky behaviours. Between 1979 and 2007 the Sisters were credited when they raised over $1 million for various causes. They continue to raise an average of almost $40,000 per year.

Early members of the group, when they are not hiding their masculine features or facial hair, are characterized by San Francisco gay community historian Susan Stryker. Susan Stryker is the embodiment of a gender bender. Their appearance has changed over the years; the nun motif remains the same but it has now been joined with exaggerated make-up that accentuates the rebellion against gender roles and religion. The Sisters have attracted controversy both within and outside the LGBT communities but have received the harshest criticism for obvious parodies of Catholic icons and policies.

One of the most outspoken and highest profile members of the Sisters of Perpetual Indulgence is Sister Roma who is hosting a meet and greet in Sydney on the 3rd of March 2017 from 6pm at Park Street Books, Level 2/44 Park Street, Sydney. So come along and meet this iconic drag queen who is an activist for the LGBTQI communities.

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Photo: Sisters of Perpetual Indulgence at the Womens March San Francisco

Community Involvement

The Sisters of Perpetual Indulgence have been involved in various causes including the promotion of safe sex, raising money for HIV/AIDS and breast cancer research. They host important community service activities like the Gay Games, Haight Ashbury Free Clinics and raising the “first legal $1000” for a city proposition to legalize medical marijuana. Sister Roma “There’s No Place like Rome!” organized the “Stop the Violence” campaign in the Castro where the Sisters distributed placards in homes and businesses to signify which were safe places to go and whistles to be used to alert those nearby in case of attack. They have sponsored dances for LGBT youth and given to or worked for a variety of similar objectives.

Over the years the Sisters have been named as saints who are supported by hundreds of people who have helped on various projects behind the scenes. They actively organize projects, coordinate actions, performing at events as an artist or emcee and serve the greater LGBT community in other ways. Sometimes they canonize community heroes who have recently died. It is customary for the Sisters to award sainthood with the addition of an elaborate “saint name”. Sisters of Perpetual Indulgence notable saints include:

  • Assassinated San Francisco Supervisor: Harvey Milk
  • California State Senator: Carole Migden
  • Mayor of San Francisco: Gavin Newsom
  • Mayor of New Paltz, New York: Jason West
  • San Francisco Supervisors: Tom Ammiano and Bevan Dufty
  • General Manager of the San Francisco Public Utilities Commission: Susan Leal
  • Founder of the Radical Faeries: Harry Hay
  • Authors: Armistead Maupin and Tonne Serah
  • Actresses: Margaret Cho, Ethel Merman and Rosie O’Donnell
  • Professor of Christian Theology at King Alfred’s College, Winchester : Dr Elizabeth Stuart,
  • Medical marijuana activists: Brownie Mary and Ed Rosenthal
  • Film maker and artist, Derek Jarman
  • French photographer: Jean-Baptiste Carhaix
  • Former City Assessor-Recorder of San Francisco: Mabel Teng

Community Activists and Organizers

  • Michael Brandon
  • Molly McKay and Davina Kotulski
  • Mr. Leather Washington 2002: Tony Buff
  • Jackie Forster
  • Peter Tatchell
  • San Francisco photographer who documented the early Sisters: Greg Day
  • The first Chair of the Terrence Higgins Trust, the largest AIDS charity in Europe: Tony Whitehead
  • Ian Campbell Dunn
  • Lisa Power

Community Drag Icons and Activists

  • Juanita More
  • Trauma Flintstone
  • Connie Champagne
  • Donna Sachet
  • Heklina
  • Peaches Christ

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