Women Achieving Orgasms – According to US national surveys on sexual health and behavior, 91% of men and only 64% of women had an orgasm during the last sexual intercourse. According to the theory of a professor of philosophy and psychology, the reason lies not only in the structure of the body but also in the stereotypes, adopted in the society.
Decades of research have shown that women need the stimulation of the clitoris, and even vaginal orgasm depends on it. The myths that a woman can easily get such an orgasm, having relaxed enough, are still widespread in society. There are several reasons for that. This article is prepared by Russian women for marriage.
Women Achieving Orgasms
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Culture depicts women get an orgasm through penetration.
When you look closely at mainstream movies featuring erotic scenes, or even adult films, it’s apparent that the narrative often culminates in the characters achieving climax after a few vigorous thrusts, side-lining other forms of stimulation. This portrayal suggests that the key to female pleasure lies solely in finding the perfect position for penetration. However, this is a misleading oversimplification.
The truth is, a woman’s position or the size of a partner’s penis plays a negligible role in reaching orgasm. The vagina itself has fewer nerve endings compared to the clitoris. Thus, the way female orgasms are depicted in media not only skews reality but also contributes to the anxiety of women who do not experience orgasms through penetration alone.
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The number of women who reach an orgasm through penetration is overestimated.
There is often quoted statistics, according to which the only one in four women gets an orgasm through penetration. Tthe statistics do not take into account that in reality, the respondents also received stimulation of the clitoris. According to the survey, only 4% of women can reach an orgasm through penetration, 43% need stimulation during penetration, 34% consider the stimulation of the clitoris to be the best way to cum, and 17% cannot reach an orgasm with a partner at all.
Nonetheless, even these statistics may be overestimated. People involved in such studies are usually sexually open. This means they are more likely to get an orgasm thanks to their emancipation.
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Female genitals are just a vagina.
During puberty, and in the process of studying, people come to the conclusion that the male and female genitalia differ only in name. So, men have a penis and testicles, women have a vagina. This is usually mentioned without any details and differences. This is the same as telling a child that the nose is for eating and breathing. After all, the nose and mouth are both on the face, so what’s the difference?
For some reason, men call all of the female genitalia in a word and do not even notice the absurdity of the situation. Since the clitoris has no effect on male pleasure, some men prefer not to pay any attention to it during sex.
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Sex is ALL about penetration.
During the same period of puberty, people master the word “sex.” It is defined as the penetration of the penis into the vagina. Any other technique is considered “not real” or only a prelude to real sex. This happens due to the fact that for a long time, the key moment in sex was considered a male orgasm. The reason – only it leads to reproduction.
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The male orgasm is more important.
Society still appreciates man’s sexual pleasure more than woman’s. In 2016, the Canadian Journal of Human Sexuality published a report. This claimed 63% of men and only 44% of women had oral sex during the last sexual intercourse.
In another study, it was found that adolescents consider oral sex more important than sex with penetration, but only if a woman does it. Obviously, the lack of attention to the clitoris is associated with a misunderstanding of anatomy. Many men still don’t think that it is so important.
Enhance Your Intimacy
Eradicating stereotypes and enhancing the quality of intimate experiences begins with understanding the nuances of female physiology. Many men, unfortunately, lack knowledge about the female orgasm. This can inadvertently affect their ability to be attentive partners.
In intimacy, a man’s primary goal should be to fulfill his partner, ensuring she reaches the pinnacle of pleasure—an orgasm. Achieving this requires an awareness of her desires and the erogenous zones that arouse her the most.
Foreplay is not just important; it’s essential.
For a woman to derive maximum enjoyment from sex, she needs to be in the right frame of mind, “tuned” for the experience. Foreplay, with its array of touches, strokes, caresses, kisses, and whispered endearments. It serves as the perfect preamble to ignite her passion. Sometimes, these acts alone can lead her to climax.
Beyond its erotic benefits, foreplay plays a critical role in stimulating natural lubrication, ensuring that penetration is comfortable and pleasurable for her. Remember, her emotional well-being is intrinsically linked to her sexual desire, making sensitivity and attentiveness key ingredients for a fulfilling sexual relationship.
Foreplay Techniques
Before penetration, stimulate her clitoris either with fingers or a tongue. You can combine penetration with clitoris stimulation. As you already know, that small part of the vulva is responsible for every orgasm irrespective of position and the type of sex.
You shouldn’t ask your woman whether she had an orgasm right after you finish. It will spoil the atmosphere of intimacy in your bedroom. Talk about sex, about each other’s preferences and fantasies, about likes and dislikes in bed. Partners should be frank in this regard. It’s a direct way to quality sex and mutual satisfaction.